Tuesday, January 12, 2016

Where responsibility begins, so lies our destiny

So today there was a moment with some students, where there was a more relatively new student, compared to the others who were there in this moment, who had known each other for longer, and so something happened that I have faced as well. So these students brought up a story from their time together, and the newer student felt left out. I have felt the same before. So I knew it was a sort of illusion, but I couldn't just say it like that directly, because I could tell this student was fully upset by this. The other students, and I as well, shared supportive points, and what I call commonsense. Like how the students just wanted to talk about the story that involved them, and that the one student didn't have to feel bad about not being there, and it wasn't the other students fault, and how the student could ask questions about what happened and be curious and listen to the story. So after our suggestions, the student still hadn't got out of the emotional rut. I knew there wasn't much else we can do, so I left it be, and so did everyone else.  This is one cool point that happens in Sudbury schools, that people are not forced to be nice, or forced to validate points which are not a person's true expression.

So things continued, and only later did the student release the emotional point, which happened through play and laughter. She stepped out of what was  in her mind, and stepped into being here WITH everyone else, and enjoying herself in expression WITH everyone else. Before this she had been by herself in her mind dwelling on this point where she believe and felt left out. When in reality she was secluding herself from her friends right here, through what she was thinking and believing was happening. So in looking how she was supported, the other students had continued being themselves and their expression with working with the task at hand right here. So they were serving as examples, and so a kind of invitation for the one student to join them right here.

Responsibility is part of Sudbury schools. So here each student is responsible for themselves, which also include how they feel, and think. Each is deciding who they are and who they choose to be. This is something true for every person in the world, except here in this school, it is realized and supported through the structure. You are not rewarded for escaping responsibility or helping someone else escape theirs, or punished for taking responsibility for yourself, which happen often in today's societies structures, schools and laws and business.

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